I had to think if I've ever fan-girled anyone and why? There was the time I went to a fundraiser dinner and Henry Winkler was the guest speaker. Afterwards everyone lined up and got an introduction. He gave me a kiss on the cheek and we took pictures and joked that I could never wash my cheek where "the Fonz" had kissed me. Silly. I know.
Admittedly, I was very thrilled this last year to finally meet Laura Frantz in person after connecting online through the writing community. But I had to pause last week when at a dinner party a friend who beta reads for me asked me who was the most famous and exciting person I've gotten to know and meet at my writer's conventions--suddenly I couldn't name a single person. I really don't personally know many of the authors I read. It's not like I know their children's names, or if they had a bad day, or their greatest life highs and lows, like a BFF.
Why? Well, I think it's because truly fan-girling or man-fanning is a phenomenon. It's not a real relationship. It's a real connection. But it's really sort of one-directional. What could Henry Winkler, Larry Bird, Bono, or Laura Frantz actually know about me? What I know about them is that their life and their story connected to something in me that I feel I now own.
The Fonz shaped my idea of American dating in the 50's that defined masculinity for that time in culture. Larry Bird is part of what I consider the Old Breed of athleticism, dedication, and determination in the sports world that touched thousands of young boys and men in small town America for decades. Bono's music has given expression to a world yearning to break free and find what we are looking for. And Laura, and all my other favorite authors? What makes me lift them up in my mind? We could spend hours discussing why a society has the need to worship fame.
But I think its the mere truth that the art, the work, and the stories they tell--all communicate something in the human experience that connects us to a sense of knowing we are not alone. We share common hopes, dreams, doubts, ideas. And I don't need to know one personal thing about any of them, or them about me--to believe that we share much of the human experience expressed in their life's work. And in those moments that hit me when the words on the page, or the perfect shot, or the sound of Bono with Edge in the background--those are the moments we have made a connection. The moment their story intersects with mine, and becomes part of me.
I'm not famous. Nor do I aspire to become famous. Actually, the idea is very daunting. I feel bad enough when I can't recall the face of someone I should know, or met more than once, let alone remember what we talked about. But when you work with the public this interaction happens. I forget when I've shared something a little personal with someone and then I'm surprised if they recall it. As an ICU nurse (not that ICU nurses are famous! lol), years ago I had to help defibrillate a woman on a Good Friday. She survived and I said something to her, never imagining I'd meet her again years later to have her quote to me that I'd told her "it's Good Friday, and God wants you to know it's good." It stunned me, no it shook me that the words I'd said had stayed with her, meant that much. It was unnerving. Not that there was anything special about me particularly, but more the idea that WORDS matter that much. That we have a responsibility to say them as best we can. For the human experience. For Truth. With God.
What words, books, movies, works of art, heroes, or heroines have impacted your life the most?
Who do you Fan-girl? Who are you a Man-Fan of? Why?
Why do you believe we have such a need for heroines and heroes?
Who is the most famous person you've met? What was your response?
For HP fans here's the link: Superfans! A Tom Felton Documentary
And for a dear "fan" who we've learned to know and love, Bonnie, we love you & pray for you.
#PrayForAFan #PrayForAHero #PrayForAHeroine #FanGirlManFan
Blog post by Anne Love-
Writer of Historical Romance inspired by her family roots.Nurse Practitioner by day.Wife, mother, writer by night.Coffee drinker--any time.
Find me at: www.anneloveauthor.com