I’m so delighted to be posting here at CC&C. When Jaime and Anne asked me if I’d like to join in the fun, I couldn’t say yes fast enough. Because I treasure these ladies’ friendships, I thought I’d post today about how important writing friends are to me.
The Importance of Writing Friends.
Writing is a solitary pursuit. Hours spent sitting, staring at a screen, sifting through the scenes in our skulls. As a result, writers can get tunnel-vision, introspective, and lonely. We need friends. In the same way that being a stay-at-home mom of young children can make you feel isolated and in need of some adult company, the screen-staring writer needs company, too. Here are three things writing friends do for each other.
- Provide Encouragement
Nobody knows what you’re going through like someone who is going through it, too. They understand the sacrifices you make to write. They 'get it' when you say your characters have gone rogue, or that they wouldn’t let you sleep. Just having someone to talk to who recognizes the importance of a black moment, a character arc, or a misplaced modifier is refreshing and encouraging. A friend on the journey helps you keep your chin up and your head down. .
- Provide Accountability
|At a writer's retreat with some friends.|
- Spiritual and Emotional Health
A writing friend can also help take your emotional temperature. Are you freaking out? Are you depressed? Are you blasé, or giddy? Are you so mixed up, you can’t tell? A writing friend can let you know when you're swinging too far one way or another, when you're majoring on minor stuff, and when your obsession with your amazon reviews is unhealthy.
Writing is an emotional roller-coaster, and it helps to have a friend to sit in the front car and raise their hands with you. This writing friend can help balance you, help you keep a check on maverick emotions and self-defeating thought-cycles. They can pull you out of the mire and keep your feet on solid ground.
I've come to know the value of writing friends. They’ve pulled me through some tough times, happy-danced with me during the good times, and allowed me to do the same for them.
|ACFW Selfie :)|
Though, as I look back over these points, I realize it isn’t just writers that need friends. Encouragement, accountability, and emotional equilibrium are perks of any friendship. J So, whether you’re a writer or not, give a shout out in the comments to one of your friends (then let them know so they can come see the comment.)
To celebrate my first post here at Coffee Cups & Camisoles, I’ll give a copy of A Bride Sews With Love in Needles, CA to one person who comments with the name of a friend and what you love about him or her, AND I'll also send a copy to that friend!
Here's a bit about the book:
As Harvey Girl Meghan Thorson waits on doughboys at the El Garces Hotel in Needles, California, she meets Caleb McBride, a local horse breeder whom the townsfolk have branded a coward and profiteer. Will threads of love unite this couple, or will pride keep them forever apart?
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