Friday, August 12, 2016

#BookReview & #Giveaway: (un)Natural Mom, by Hettie Brittz

Jaime here. Today's book review/interview spot is a bit different. We typically feature fiction, but I took a dive off the deep end to read this book by Hettie Brittz and see what non-fiction could do for us.

First of all, this is a great book for any of us, if we have kids in our lives. I actually wish they hadn't titled it "mom" 'cause Grammas, Dads, Grampas, etc. can learn from it. However, I get the illustrations have to do with moms, so yeah ...

Ok. Here I go. Reviewing a non-fiction book. Will you do this with me?

Reservations:

I went into the book expecting a cover to cover read. It can be, but in reality, you read the first third and then take an online profile test and then are best served reading the chapters of the personality that apply to you. It's valuable to read the others at some point because that can balance out the weak areas of your "mothering" style, but to really wrap my brain around this book, I had to skip around to my profile sections.

My other reservation was that, while it was well-written, the chapters are broken into a profile type and then takes the reader through different stages of motherhood like you're reading it from a mom's diary perspective. That was a tad confusing for me. I can see where they were dropping a fictionalized mom into a situation (first day of Kindergarten, child's first job, graduation, etc),but I'd rather have read it in a format more psychologically driven. This profile type will face different seasons this way. Negative reactions for that personality type and positive reactions.

Taking the profile online was confusing. The book says it's free, but online it says "add to cart". I just bulldozed through and figured out you take the test, it gives you a basic profile, and you can purchase a far more detailed profile if you're wanting. I wish the web site was laid out more user-friendly with a simple "FREE TEST" button and then guide the test-taker to buy the extended version later.

Positives: 

I think it's great that there's a personality test for parent/grandparenthood. It's a different world as a mom and yeah, I struggle to figure myself out with my kids. I really liked how this profile does parallel the popular DISC profile test. Once I took my parenting profile, it all made sense because I'd already taken the DISC test years ago. Basically, I learned I'm a fun-loving mom whose self-drive to succeed will be encouraged in my children, but I will cringe from discipline because it may hurt feelings and ruin fun unless I can link it to the fact that discipline will help my child succeed and then I'll be all in to discipline.

The parenting profile is FREE online. HUGE plus. You definitely do need to take the profile test for the book to make sense.

It was helpful to read the profile styles. There is a nice balance between examples, application, and spiritual application.

It's also an easy read. If you're new to profile tests, this won't be daunting and will probably really help open your eyes to elements of yourself you hadn't identified before.

About the book: 

(un)Natural Mom: Why You Are the Perfect Mom for Your Kids (David C Cook, August 2016)
Do you feel like you're the only mom who serves store-bought birthday treats, dreads school plays, and misses the days of going to the bathroom by herself?
Unnatural Mom gives you permission to say that mothering doesn't always come naturally to you. Parenting expert and self-proclaimed unnatural mom Hettie Brittz helps you . . .
-Recognize how unrealistic our culture's standards of mothering are
-Move beyond the myths of "supermom"
-Complete a profile to determine your own parenting style
-Understand and forgive the mothers who hurt you
-Embrace your capabilities as well as your challenges
Come find new hope in discovering that every mother has unique gifts. In Christ, the "unnatural" mom becomes the supernatural mom who is just right for her family!

Purchase a copy: http://bit.ly/2aZi9bM
 
About the author:


Hettie Brittz
 is an author, international speaker, and one of South Africa's foremost voices on parenting advice. She is the developer of the Evergreen Parenting Course and Tall Trees Profiles. Hettie and her husband, Gospel singer Louis Brittz, live in South Africa with their three children.


I'm giving away my copy! Leave a comment below and tell me your experience with mom-ing, gramma-ing, and if you think you're the fun one, the strict one, the structured one, or the stable one....


2 comments:

  1. I need this book! I'm having a hard time parenting the carbon-copy male version of myself...

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  2. I need this book for my daughter. She has two of the strongest willed children I've ever been around. And I thought she was bad.....LOL

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