It was fun to spend the day with the kids and watch them shine. They did such an amazing job, and in between photo shoots, they explored the site (which they've been to countless times), chased dragonflies, caught caterpillars, and enjoyed the summer weather.
During supper, I asked my husband what advice he would give to his twenty-one-year-old self at our wedding. He said: "You know, I think we both do marriage really well." I agreed. Even though we have our struggles, and there are areas we're still working on, overall, we do well together. So I asked him what have we done well that he would advise another young couple to do. And that's when he made me smile.
He said: "I think what we've always done well is hold each other accountable. When one of us is off in our emotions, thoughts, behavior, attitude, we confront the other one and we have enough love and respect for each other to evaluate the issue and make the necessary changes." He's right. This has always been a strength for us. Has it always been easy? No. Have we always made the change right away? No. But I think we've both learned how and when to confront an issue. And we've both learned how to take that issue to God and work it out. Sometimes the change has been immediate...and sometimes it's taken years. We're both still in the midst of some of those works-in-progress now, but we're changing and growing, and showing the other person that we value our marriage enough to work on the issue.
The last thing he said we've done well (and I said he's done better at this than me), is sacrifice for each other's dreams. Dave is my number one fan. Always. He loves my drive and determination (he tells me that all the time), and he recognizes that the dreams in my heart were placed there by God. He has done everything in his power to help me achieve those dreams, and it has made all the difference in our lives and marriage. I can't imagine pursuing something like my writing dream without his full support--and he can't imagine owning his own business if I wasn't committed to his dreams.
Marriage is hard. But it's also the most amazing journey I've ever been on. I thank God that He brought David into my life when I was sixteen, and that I had enough wisdom and discernment at that age to know he was the man I wanted to spend my life with.
I'd love to know: What advice would you give a newly married couple? What advice did you receive? If you're married, what have you learned? If you're not, what have you learned from watching others?
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