Sigh. If that would only ALWAYS be her definition of choosing a young man.
Yes. I am a mother. Who thinks about these things.
Does anyone think I'm weird? I mean, Kokomo Jo really IS only five years old. And it isn't like she's got a personality that crushes on boys. That idea hasn't even crossed her mind yet. Marriage is just a practical part of her future and right now anyway, she'll address it in a game of Life with common sense.
But she won't always. No. One day that boy will cross her path, turn her head and then BAM! Dating will enter our home. All when she's 32 and barely even ready. Right? No one deserves her. She is my treasure. Mine. ALL MINE. But since there is the inevitable fact she might not share that
So I've concocted a fool proof way to pick my future son-in-law.
- Teach my daughter to be a woman of faith.
- It's not always that simple, as I realize her own personal will factors into this. But a sensitivity to things of the Lord and following her Savior will also lead to a sensitive heart to see those same traits in her future man.
- Encourage my daughter's bond with her Daddy.
- Because if she is close to him, no other man will measure up unless he has her daddy's qualities
- Show my daughter she is enough
- I think sometimes we inadvertently teach our daughters that marriage is a necessary part of their life. I want her to learn that with a union with Christ, she can do anything He asks of her, and her independence as a woman of God is enough. A husband is a blessing, but not a necessity.
- Help her speak her mind
- I have a strong-willed daughter. (I know, shocking, right?) But I love it. I cherish the fact she has strong opinions and beliefs and while I'm helping direct and form them now, in the future, I want to help her speak her mind, be a strong, capable woman, and know when to submit and when to lead.
Ok. So maybe it's not fool-proof, but it's a start isn't it? I mean, if some guy is going to come along and take my daughter to the front of the church, then that man better be as solid gold as that ring!
Do you have thoughts on your future son-in-laws (or current?)